WHY WE LOVE BEING MARRIED
Written by Alisha
For those of you who don’t know, Ben and I started The Marriage Coaches in November of 2008 as an answer to God’s call for us. We have been married for 13 years (March 27). We have had many trials and tribulations and issues in our marriage to varying degrees. I always say we have dealt with everything except abuse and infidelity, almost everything else, you name and we have dealt with it.
Even early on in our marriage, we dealt with issues of one of us wanting to end the relationship or being impacted by the divorce of a close family friend. Even then, God was preparing us for this day. We decided to do a monthly tribute to marriage. Our pastor at the time gave us permission to have seasoned couples get up during service and share with the rest of us what it took to be happily married. We even planned a cruise for married couples. During that time, we got to hear from several couples, but two couples stood out to me the most because the husband of one couple (Jones) and the wife of the other (Brewtons) have since passed, but the memory of their words and inspiration still lives on as an inspiration of what a lifetime of love and commitment looks like even in death.
Fast forward several years – and here we are after logging many hours as a therapist and providing pre-marital sessions for the church and various groups, the message of I Love Being Married was delivered. My husband was talking to one of his good single male friends who told him, I can see that you have a great relationship with your wife. You are the same person even when she is not around. You act the same way around her and she lets you be yourself and she can be herself. Side Note: Ben is very active and busy and energetic, I on the other hand am very laid back, but we complement each other very well. Anyway, he told Ben you make me want to get married because you look like you love being married. Wow, what a statement! He could see the love my husband had for me even when I was not around by his actions and his words. This is how I Love Being Married was born. God used him to show us how He wants to use us! I thank God for using him and for our ability to move in faith to follow.
I Love Being Married is a movement that we want to take over the world! This is something bigger than us. I think we had taken for granted the power of these words recently. But, these words carry a lot of power. The words I love being married carries a lot of emotions for people good and bad based on their experience with marriage. We’ve had many reactions from, I love that where can I be a part of it, to his wife made him wear that shirt or even you’re such a liar. Unfortunately, the bad comments have resounded louder than the good. We want to change that. We’re not asking people to join a movement to support us as individuals, but in support of The I Love Being Married Movement. You may not be able to say this today but on days when I don’t even feel like saying it, seeing those words plastered everywhere makes me stand up and take notice. I have to check myself.
Please share our story and your commitment to this movement by asking others to become fans of The Marriage Coaches on Facebook, join our mailing list, or purchasing a shirt. We want to build a culture and community of people who love being married. We love each other and our extended family from all of our communities and we want to spread some of this love and inspiration to others to show that you can go from thoughts of divorce to being able to say, I Love Being Married.
Thanks for your support,
Benjamin and Alisha Walker
The Marriage Coaches