Single & Dating

October 27, 2011

All My Single Ladies

Like so many single women out there, before I married my husband, I was so preoccupied with getting married that I honestly didn’t appreciate my single life. Instead of maximizing the moment, I was so focused on tomorrow that I forgot to live for today. So, I’m sending out an S.O.S for all my single ladies (and men too for that matter). Before you squander those gooooood single years, I’m going to stage an intervention. No, I don’t have twelve steps but I do have three steps for living single!

1. Write a Hitch List – A Hitch List is like a Bucket List. It’s just a list of all the things you want to do before you get hitched. What us married folk don’t always tell you is that once you get married, though not impossible, it is a bit harder to do certain things. If you want to travel…travel. If you want to get another degree…get your learn on! If you want to write a book…get to typing. Write a list of all the things you are able to do without the responsibilities of married life.

2. Remember marriage isn’t necessarily better, it’s just different – When I heard this, it literally freed me. So many people think that once you get married all your problems will be over because you have a live in boo. Don’t get me wrong, marriage definitely has it’s perks but so does the single life. Maximize these moments and take advantage of the perks. Focus on the benefits of being single and not the hard parts. Trust me, you’ll need to do this when you get married too so you might as well get into practice now!

3. Serve! – It wasn’t until I took my mind off of marriage and put it on serving that my husband found me (yes, FOUND ME – another blog for another day). When you get married, your service is unto your family first and God is glorified through that but while you’re single, your service is unto God first. I was always serving in my church when I was single because that’s where God wanted me to be. Ironically, it was while I was serving that my husband met me…at church…working!

If you take anything away from this, please remember to love where you are! Remember to make the most of the life that you are living today and don’t be so preoccupied with tomorrow that you forget to live for today!


Happy living!


  1. roshanda nicole

    Thanks Nicole Lester!!! I will get moving and working more 🙂

  2. Tawanda Ridley

    Thanks for this article! It was a great quick read. You’re absolutely right, marriage isn’t better, it’s different. I like that. I’ll be honest, I think I’ve always thought it made my married friends better than me because they were married. But there’s a season for all things… and right now it’s my season to be single and to enjoy it.

  3. Nicole Lester

    Thanks guys. I’m speaking from experience. LOVE WHERE YOU ARE so that you don’t wish you were there when you’re not. Does that make sense? Thanks for the feed back and tell your friends.

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