I Love Being Married

October 11, 2011

Marriage Makeover: A New Look Part 1

If you are looking for a concrete way to change your marriage, follow the instructions below and complete them with your spouse. This is one part of a three part series. To finish the entire marriage makeover come back  here for the next two days. By the end, you and your spouse will have a blueprint for a new relationship. It will be up to you to then walk it out. Good luck!

This task should be completed together, however, use two separate papers.

God’s Word always sets the tone. When looking at one’s relationship and the love you share, we are expected to model Christ and the Church as well as our own relationship with God. Not that our love is always perfect, however, we want to imitate His love. Let’s take a different approach to a common scripture so that it may inspire this activity.

Romans 8:31-36 More than Conquerors

31 What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? 33 Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. 34 Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36 As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” 37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

What would our relationships look like if we strived to let nothing separate us from each other’s love? This is why, it’s time for a “Marriage Makeover: A New Look”.

Answer the following questions by asking each other:

  1. What is a makeover?
  2. What are the common types of makeovers?

Example: Kitchen Makeover (A visual to see the levels and process)

-Maybe put in new floors or appliances -possibly reface some cabinets

-Simply updating the hardware -completely overhauling/gutting the entire space

  1. Why would you makeover your kitchen?

(Improve functionality, increase comfort, efficiency, maximize potential, and realize vision)

 How far would you go? What about your marriage? Any similarities?

  1. Do you want to improve your marriage?
  2. Improve functionality?
  3. Could your marriage be more efficient?
  4. Look better?
  5. Can you see yourselves maximizing your potential?

Can you see your potential? Do you have a vision? Would you be willing to completely overhaul and or re-do your marriage if you saw the basic foundation for greatness? Do you see it? If not, what are you looking for?

Task 1: Write out what you see in and for your marriage in the next 3-5 years. Use adjectives and emotions to truly express your vision.

(When both of you have finished, read it to each other without allowing the other to actually read it!)

Task 2: What are your core strengths? What do you feel are the foundations of your relationship? What do you do well in marriage, possibly better than others?

(Let your partner read what you wrote. Highlight same responses and enjoy the differences.)

Task 3: With the spirit of love and resolution, what in your marriage needs to be demo’d, demolished, removed, completely destroyed?

(Find common ground on what you both want to see go!!)

Task 4: What can we save? Just may need some paint, or resurface, or some new hardware? For example, this would be something that did not get demo’d, but may not have made the core strengths list.

(Share this one with some enthusiasm and explanation. Give some insight into what’s worth saving)


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